Don’t Look Up: Late Night Thoughts on the 12th Day of Christmas

Turning to the Wise Ones

“You can lie to anyone in the world and even get away with it, perhaps, but when you are alone and look into your own eyes in the mirror, you can’t sidestep the truth. Always be sure you can meet those eyes directly. Otherwise, it’s big trouble, my girl.” — Betty White

“There are different kinds of justice. Retributive justice is largely Western. The African understanding is far more restorative — not so much to punish as to redress or restore a balance that has been knocked askew.”— Desmond Tutu, Recovering From Apartheid

One of the mantras or meditations I’ve had over the years about privilege is, “what to do with it”? One, you can use it to help others. That’s what I do in the business form. People come here, I help boost their career to the point where they have financial stability. Or I give away money to the charities we care about. Teaching, teaching women, empowering women. That type of stuff is what you do if you have a benefit. But, really, you live a life of integrity. That’s what you do. You don’t fuck it up. You use every moment and every possible resource you have to set it up with someone who needs it. You do it with the kind of seriousness that it takes, so that other people respect it as much as you do. So that when you say, “hey, you should sit with your privilege,” they don’t lash back. They actually understand what it means.” — Alicia Cardenos



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